Kids can get fussy or sobbing anytime and anywhere. If you are first-time parents, you may be surprised about the amount of time that you find your baby in tears. In fact, it’s a quite common practice among new parents. However, not all parents understand why their kids cry. There are several reasons that can make your baby burst into tears. In most cases, parents will try to yell or ask them to stop crying. But this is not a good method as it may lead to complications for your baby’s development. So here are the main reasons why your kids cry to help you deal with it better.
Your Child Is Hungry
Huger is a natural feeling, everyone can be hungry and craving for food at any time, your kids will be no exceptions. Hunger may be a reason for tears if your little one just woke up from a nap, or if it’s been a long time since they last ate. Getting hungry will easily make your child’s mood go down quickly and they will burst into tears. Normally, your toddler or young kids probably will notify you when they are hungry.
If they are having too much fun playing, your baby may get distracted, ignore their hunger, and not communicate with you. In this case, it’s much harder to tell that they’re hungry. If your child hasn’t eaten in a while and their mood is going downhill fast, try offering them a bite to eat. Keeping a few healthy snacks on-hand can quickly curb the tears when you’re away from the house.
Your Child Is Overstimulated
Kids love going to exciting play places, like bounce houses or birthday parties. However, at some point, however, the hustle and bustle can become too much for some of them. In fact, it is normal if your kid is unable to express what is wrong in these situations. You might see tears when your child is overstimulated. If your baby starts to cry seemingly for no reason and you are in a location that is loud or busy, try giving them a break. Take them outside or to a quieter room and let them sit down for a few minutes to get their bearings. For some kids, a break might not be enough. If your child is upset and not consoled or calmed, it might be best to take them home early.
Your Child Cry due to Stress
Stress is a big reason for tears even for adults. Surely being a parent who has to pay the bills and run a busy household is really stressful. So you might wonder what could make your child stressed. Don’t be surprised, there are a lot of things that your kids can stress about, especially in older children. An overloaded schedule may be stressful for your kids. All kids need free time to play creatively, as well as to relax. Children can also become stressed by the events happening around them. For example, trouble between their parents, a move or school change, or even events they overhear on the nightly news.
A child might become an uncharacteristically teary child if they’re feeling the burden of stressful life events, despite that they may not directly involve them. Toddlers or preschoolers who are stressed will need an adult’s help in changing the environment. By helping your baby reduce stressful circumstances, you are also helping learn to manage their emotions. On the other hand, older children can benefit from learning skills to manage stress. From deep breathing and meditation to exercise and leisure activities, healthy stress reduction activities will help your child gain control over their emotions.
Your Baby Cry to Draw your Attention
You sometimes may find your baby burst into tears suddenly. Just one minute ago, they are playing happily, but you turned your back for a second, and now they are sobbing. This happens because your baby wants to draw your attention. Since they are still little babies, your child knows that crying is a great way to get your attention. In fact, your attention even when it’s negative will somewhat reinforce your child’s behavior. If you respond aggressively, it can actually encourage your child’s tantrums to continue. So you should ignore this attention-seeking behavior whenever possible. Avoid making eye contact and don’t start a conversation when your child is looking for your attention.
Eventually, they’ll see that it’s not fun to throw a tantrum or scream loudly when they do not have a captive audience. Instead, show your child that they can get your attention by playing nicely, using kind words, and following the rules. When they do that, praise them for these behaviors, and your child will be less likely to cry to draw your attention. Furthermore, it doesn’t mean that you can’t give your child some positive attention. Try spending a few minutes every day to play with them or do something together. Your child will be less likely to cry for attention if you give them a few minutes to be in the spotlight every day.
They Want Something
Young children are normally unable to understand the difference between wants and needs. When they want something, they often assert they need it—and right now. Whether they insist on playing with a breakable heirloom or want you to take them to the park, tears of disappointment and desperation will happen.
Most of the new parents often give in after they said no to their kids. They may feel guilty or think that they can’t stand to listen more crying. Don’t do that. If you give in to your kids and satisfy their ridiculous demand, you are teaching them that they can use tears to manipulate you. While it’s important to show empathy, don’t let your child’s tears change your behavior. Instead, tell them that you know how they are feeling and proactively teach your child socially appropriate ways to deal with their feelings when they aren’t getting something that they want.
Your Child Wants to Escape a Demand
Your child can also cry if they really don’t want to do something like putting down their favorite toys and prepare for bedtime. Of course, these tears can come from your child’s sadness, but they could also be a ploy. If your child gets you to engage with them, even if it’s just for a minute, they can put off doing something they don’t want to do. You can try to validate your child’s feelings by saying, “I know it’s hard to pick up your toys when you want to keep playing.”
At the same time, avoid getting into a lengthy discussion or a power struggle. In addition, you can give out a warning that outlines what consequences your child can expect if they do not comply. For example, if they do not put down their toys now, they won’t be able to play with them the next morning. It’s important to teach your child that even though they feel sad or angry, they can still follow the rules. Each time your child gets upset over a demand you’ve made, it’s an opportunity to help them learn to take positive action even when they are feeling bad.
There you go, now you have the main reasons why kids cry. Do your kids often cry? What are their reasons? We’d love to know in the comments!